Welcome to autism's world

Autism spaces out and wants to open and close the cabinets or repeats a single activity, don't try to stop him instead try to control the behaviour...not in a bad way that is, focus on building a relationship with him. You can try to sense what's attracting him, if he's banging cabinet doors open and shut, you bang the doors too and make it into a game. Try to sense what's attracting him to a particular activity, if it's the sound that he's after take ex. pots and pans or tupper ware or anything else that would make noise, music instruments are good. If it's the movement of the cabinets that''s intriguing him you can make it into a hide and seek game. 

Unfortunately, many students, teachers and therapists have pre-conceived notion about autism and about what's appropriate and what isn't for him and them. To them it's not appropriate for him to bang things, to me I feel the only thing that matter is why he wants to bang. To unearth those "why's" you don't simply follow his lead, you also follow his needs. When he bangs he's the only one making those noise, you can both make noise, autism is the bandleader :P, he soon stops the random banging, this is clear rebuke to therapists who regard his behaviour as disruptive and random. The truth is that everything he does is occasioned by his own imperatives.

The reason lining up toys and or items is easier for autism, I think is because there isn't so many steps, like 100's hehe, that must reorganized by the brain, then put into action.

Autism's few repetitive steps that little to no time to master

Sometimes staring at hands or other thing so so long is a type of calming mechanism, a predictable object in a world filled sounds, people and activity. The hand opens and closes, has bumps and valley's

Autism allows other's to come to his world, but I think people don't often realize this. Once you come to autism's world, then it's easier for him to come to yours.

Autism stops to look at hubcaps on every parked car, you can stop with him and stare at the hubcaps. You'll see the sun falling on the hubcap creates a star burst of brilliant, shining shards of light. 

You stopped and came into autism's world and got to see what he wanted to show you, now he doesn't have to do that anymore.

Sometimes he doesn't want to get into the water and other times where he doesn't want to get out (that's part of the transitioning difficulties). Transition are difficult for him, 5 minutes warnings followed by 2, then 1, then done.

I love the sunset and I think with autism I'm able to love it even more. With autism he focus on the detail of how the sky depends from dramatic shades of colours.

Autism is capable of forming meaningful human relationships/attachments.

Breaks are good for him when in your world...and sometimes even when in his own little world.

When autism tantrums, most people respond by becoming scared or dismiss him forever.

Rules, boundaries and limitations are good for him.

He may trash his own room, you wait for him to regain his calm, at which point he is required to clean up the room and put it back together. This way each of his action has a logical and meaningful consequence.

Focus on the positives when possible. Praise when good choices are made, controls impulses, helps out. The more you do, the better choices he will learn to make.

Tearing or shredding socks or pants is a calming thing for him that he may do.

He is content in his world, what makes him discontent is when you try to get him to do other things, in other works, he's not the one who's disconnected, it's you.

His room is a pack absent of "no's", he can pretty much do anything he wants. If he wants to spin or rock or jump, he can. If he needs to throw things, soft plushy's are the only option...for safety reasons. In the rest of the house there are rules.

THings can't be thrown or taken off in the rest of the house, "if you want to be in our world, this is how we do thing", you remind him, "but in you room you welcome to do things"

It's about giving him choices. Your helping create new pathways to autism through choices you give and through constant, purposeful play.

Autism may seem to be afraid to go outside or on a walk in the forest or hiking on a trail and etc. What he's really afraid of are the unpredictable sounds that he may hear. The outside world overwhelms him because of his sensitives to sight, sound, touch, taste, and scent. That "normal" people don't possess.

He likes to test people, especially new ones. I think it's a type of security he has, like he's saying, "i'm going to reject you before you have a chance to reject me"

Don't try to control, try to join us.


When he spins or rocks, he's trying to activate the vestibular part of the brain.

New surroundings can be difficult for him to adjust.

When he sometimes is nervous he likes to chew on things. You an give him something safe to chew on.

He LOVES deep pressures, play fighting has deep pressure in it, or "rough touch"

He's sensitive to sounds and if it's to lout for him he may become quite...a little to quite...

If he bangs his head on the wall or whines or etc. you can say " I can't understand what you are trying to tell me, when you are ready to tell, I will listen"

Schedules are very important for him and it's best to have pictures next to the activity if possible.

Sometimes he can become non-verbal, meaning he can't use his vocal words, so there are other ways he can still communicate.

1- he has the proloquo which is on his ipad and the icon has an owl on it

2- he knows basic sign language. He may sign Megan which is where he puts his fingers on his lips. That's his sign for Megan when he's non-verbal. He also makes sounds

3- There's a method he's been taught where you would give 2 choices and have your hands in a fist shape for him to touch, ex. " Do you want to go kayaking or on a hike", so say kayaking is the left hand, and hiking is the right hand. He will then touch the hand of the choice he wants to do. This can be for anything, like feeling, activities, foods, etc. You would do a half down motion and say "kayak or" then do the same with the other hand and say the other option "hiking"

He sometimes may touch you lips. The reason why he does this is because when he touches them, he can then see the words in a slower motion in his mind, and is then able to hear them and can know what you are saying to him. He's only done this to 3 people...Megan is a pro at it hehe :P 

He need/ and wants to know his limits so he may do something to test you to see how many times he can do that, ex. make noise, please let him know his limits.

Sometimes it can be hard for him to sit still for a long time, so he may need a quick break and walk around and let his body move to get rid of the pent up energy. This isn't special treatment, it's getting his individual needs met so he can continue to participate.

Sometimes if autism is doing one of his "classical behaviours" like running in a circle, what you can do is run in a circle with him and then turn it into a game of tag or chase. If he's hiding under a table or chair you can turn it into a game of hide and seek, he loves that game...and is good at it to hehe. If he's hiding underneath a blanket you can explore the underworld with him.

These are a few ways of how to turn those behaviours into interactive play

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